Many people have asked about my "change in relationship status" on facebook so I figured this would be an ideal avenue to fill everyone in.
My first semester in Minnesota I wanted to focus on adapting to life in the Twin Cities and away from my family as well as get myself acquainted and comfortable with the U, my program, and faculty. I also wanted to begin building a social network up here by meeting people and specifically establishing girlfriends. I feel like I successfully navigated those "tasks" last semester and decided that this semester I would focus on my professional development (I am presenting my own research at a national conference in May, and also plan on getting some publications out of my thesis) as well as continue focusing on my friendships.
A couple weekends ago my friend Amanda invited me to attend one of her friend's birthday party with her. I figured it would be fun and an opportunity to meet some new people. Little did I know I was about to be completely swept off my feet. Kirk was one of the guys within our "group" of people and I noticed him instantly when I walked in (and have since found out he also noticed me). We ended up talking some, dancing some and overall having a really fun time. At the end of the night he asked for my number and, although I wasn't looking for a relationship, I decided that the connection I already felt was too much to ignore. We ended up going out with a group of friends for sushi the following Thursday and then he asked me on a date for that Saturday. We've obviously hung out and gone out a couple other times since.
I realize that many of you may think this all happened really fast or too quick, and we are aware of that, but are not going to allow society's "rules for dating" to dictate our relationship. For that matter I think we have broken every single dating rule so far (he didn't wait three days to call, we talked about anything and everything you aren't supposed to on the first date, etc.). All that matters to me at this point is that he and I connect in a way I have never connected with a guy before, he fulfills almost everything I am looking for in a guy (lets face it, no one is going to fit perfectly...the most a person can expect is 80%), he is the MOST communicative/articulate guy I have ever met, AND he accepts me for me (I don't have to apologize for being an intelligent, strong, independent woman). My mom always told me that someone would come along and sweep me off my feet when I least expect it...and that is the epitome of what happened with Kirk.
Kirk makes me extremely happy and I am so glad to have him in my life. I'm excited for our relationship to grow, evolve, and change and see where we end up.